
Rainer Pervöltz
The most challenging paradox in our lives
Throughout most of humanistic psychology and many spiritual schools, there is the idea of a learned personal (his)story, which has become our identity and which helped us as children to survive, be loved, and have a place in our surroundings. Mysteriously enough, this identity becomes our biggest challenge as an adult, whether or not we have any spiritual intentions for our life. It makes our life difficult and dissatisfying – basically, because we still follow the survival standards which we have developed as children. It keeps our personal life and life on the planet at an extremely immature level, even though (or because) we all have invented our own neurotic logic to justify the maintenance of our childlike perspectives and behaviour.
Behind this survival form (our personality), there is in each of us another „being”, of whom we have (in most cases) completely alienated ourselves. We have become unable to recognise it as who we truly are, as our home and essence, and we have – more than that – developed all sorts of reasons to fear it or discount it, even though it is all we are longing for. Longtime ago, we had to learn to abandon it, and this is why now, we have become afraid of it. In the workshop, I would like us to have a look at this most challenging paradox in our lives, its upsetting forms of appearance, pitfalls, and tricks; and at some potential ways to make the transition from our learned story to our essence less disturbing.