“Feminine thinking is one of the medicines for this society” by Pier Luigi Lattuada
Let us look together at the disharmonies (which in the long run have become pathologies) of the society we have created.
The main problem, in my opinion, is the identification with the ego, an excess of personal importance whose result is a culture of competition, of domination, based on the hypertrophy of the rational. Modern Western thought is based on keeping all that is myth, unconscious, spirituality at bay. The basic idea is that science through reason, measurement, repeatability can build a better society. In this way, all the qualities that are most genuinely human are put aside in order to achieve results.
Society is made up of goals and this leads to predation, competition and conflict. In our society, the code of fear builds a structure of domination, held up by the hegemony of the rational that aims to control everything. This is an archetypically masculine culture. The approach that we might call ‘feminine’ is completely ousted. Feminine thinking is one of the medicines for this society.
Our society based on doing, on producing, brings us to a continuous acceleration that leaves no time to stop. We live caught up in achieving goals and the immoderate pursuit of entertainment as an outlet. Is it possible to create a society in which being and doing are in balance? What could be the keys to achieving it?
In daily life, nobody stops, nobody listens, nobody stays in. It is all about filling: filling your days, filling your pockets, filling your time.
This has as consequences fear (fear of losing, of suffering, of not being recognised…) and control (controlling one’s steps, the unexpected, others…). Recognising the code of fear that determines us and the need for control that arises from analytical-rational thinking is the first step in transformation.
Referring back to the great Eastern and Western Traditions, we discover that in addition to this modality we have another: it is possible to observe ourselves thinking, to observe ourselves acting; we can have a conscious and meditative attitude. This is a key.
By observing myself, I can see if I am being guided by fear and can, therefore, take responsibility for choosing trust.
If I do not see what I am doing, because I am in the thick of it, in need, I will act by manifesting on the outside the same conflict that I experience on the inside.
If I am afraid and set myself a goal, this goal will be the child of fear and will serve power.
The goal, the strategy should serve humanity, not above humanity.
Before action, we should put listening and observing ourselves, recognising what the true nature of what we want to do is and thus begin to move beyond fear and control to a dimension of trust where it is possible to tolerate uncertainty and recognise that the forgotten side of the feminine is rich in an infinity of gifts.
When we balance masculine and feminine, the inner drive is no longer only to conquer, to separate in order to obtain, but brings with it acceptance and trust. Our gaze is more supportive, fraternal and human. The culture that springs from this is a culture of sharing and solidarity.
The current cultural system, on the other hand, is only based on ‘reason’ and cannot bring about a peaceful and satisfying world for human beings. Ours today is ethnocentric thinking: we divide ourselves into tribes that conflict over different beliefs. We must shift to world-centric thinking: think in planetary terms and create a culture of trust.
Instead, the attitude right now is one of separation, of struggle, of seeking an exclusively technical and rational answer to what is happening. How did it happen that in man, there was this imbalance towards the male polarity alone?
To answer this we have to talk about the institutionalisation of trauma.
It is a history rooted in our distant past. About 3000 years ago, there were the Indo-European invasions. They were peoples who lived in a condition of constant trauma: life was very hard, the emergency was constant, only the strongest won, women counted for little. When they came here, they brought their culture of swords and domination.
In Europe, before, there was the cult of nature, of the Mother Goddess, which was supplanted by the male God who, from nature, was taken to the heights of heaven. Thus was born the present culture, which we recognise to be founded on force, on power, on the masculine. That is why every time an emergency arises we act by implementing the rhetoric of war. Constituted power feeds on this because when faced with a state of necessity, we enter into the dynamic of delegation instead of responsibility.
The responsibility he speaks of breaks away from the idea of guilt and confronts us with ‘light and shadow’ as two fundamental elements for us to see. Can one maintain a living relationship with both without judgement?
Responsibility is the ability to respond, to be able to see who I am and consequently be aware of the dynamics that lead me to act, think, feel in a certain way. Faced with this great act of courage that is knowing oneself and being honest with oneself, comes the fear of the shadow, of our own faults.
The rational mind wants to fight the shadow to achieve perfection. This is a limited attitude.
In technique, it is possible to work to eliminate error, but with the psyche, the approach must be different. We must use a unitive mind, capable of integrating the various aspects of our being. Darkness and light serve each other: both are two components that have their own essential function. Going beyond rational thinking that divides, separates and judges is possible. Conscious observation leads one to realise that shadow and light are part of a larger Gestalt.
Our Self has two characteristics: the capacity for self-renewal and self-transcendence. Self-renewal is the ability to recognise what moves us out of balance and the possibility of regaining it. Self-transcendence is the ability to learn from experience and evolve. For these qualities to come into being, one must reach the dimension of emptiness that lies above all the noise.
True awareness is realising that one is at home, in oneself, in every moment, stopping in this sacred place, enjoying the silence beyond all the needs we value, all the fears we give power to, all the goals we set as the meaning of life. Stopping in our home allows us to listen to the movement of our thoughts and we can not choose, let it flow and thus let our true Self emerge, a dimension of silence, peace, harmony, connection and love. In this way, we overcome judgement, the need to achieve perfection, to be right, and begin to unite, integrate, be whole.
A piece of advice to those who listen to us to begin a transformation today.
Close your eyes and stay silent for 10 minutes.